One of my very favorite mottos that I have adopted over the past year has been “progress over perfection.” I first heard this from Lara Casey. If you don’t know who she is, you definitely need to check her out. She creates these amazing worksheets called Power Sheets and they completely changed how I wrote goals and planned my life. Ok, back to the the motto. Well, this motto rang SO true for me. As a type A personality, I’ve really struggled actually accomplishing my goals. I had big dreams and huge goals I wanted to achieve but I kept failing. Why? Well basically I wanted everything to be perfect. If there was a single slip up, I would throw in the towel. This motto began to allowed me to give my self more grace and just doing the work regardless if it’s was classified as perfect.
To be honest, I didn’t even read what this book was about before I ordered it on Amazon because the title was enough. “Present Over Perfect,” shouted my name and I hit the order button in less than a minute. Again, I was/am tired of seeking perfection. There has got to be a better way of living.
I instantly dove into this book and each elegantly worded chapter spoke to my heart. I’m pretty sure Shauna Niequist is my future self and knew every inch of my heart and the struggles I’m dealing with as a new mom trying to find my way in the world as I enter my 30s. I struggle with finding balance in life between being busy, devoting time to work and also being a present and thoughtful wife and mom.
In this book, Shauna covers different topics with small stories in each chapter which makes it a great book to read in bed. You can read a single chapter in just a few short pages before you fall asleep. Overall, the message is very clear – the moment we slow down, get quiet and be where we are, our lives will be more fulfilling and content. She speaks about the struggles of the hustle and always pressing on. For any other type A folks out there, you can relate because that’s how we are hard wired. But Shauna digs deeper into that thought- why do we do this beyond on the surface the constant drive to achieve and get “it” down? I agree in that she believes it’s because deep down, we trying to find our worth in accomplishing things for everyone else but ourselves. This is how we find our value but it’s not true value.
I resonate with that so freaking much. I think if we’re all honest with ourselves, we all at some time or another have feelings of “not _____ enough.” Even though I try my best to be optimistic and positive, I do feel that I numb those feelings by being busy and never really noticing WHY I am doing what I am doing other than it being habit. THANK YOU Shauna for calling that out and speaking the truth. Amen sister!
The other area of her message/book that really stuck with me is having enough energy and love for the relationships that mean the most to us like our families and dear friends. Is it fair to our children or our husbands that we run ourselves ragged for our jobs and when we get home, we have nothing left to give to them? At the end of the day, did wearing ourselves out meeting a deadline for a client mean more than having the energy and presence to play with our child when we get home? Did that work phone call need to interrupt your family dinner? You’re so right Shauna – you’re so damn right!
Not only is Shauna a beautiful writer (seriously her writing is like poetry), her messages will pull your heart strings and open your eyes to a better way of living. Honestly you can’t read this book soon enough!