The topic of perfection has been on my heart a lot in the past year. I always held myself to a standard of perfection (or at least an A) for any task or goal that I was working on. Along the way though I found that if I messed up or fell off the wagon so to speak, I would think I had ruined all progress and I was back at square one. I never gave myself credit for the work I put into my goals. I can’t even count how many times I’ve “restarted,” a training program because I missed a few days at the gym or ate some bad food and in my mind, I had thrown off all of my progress.
Having a baby made me realize real quick that I am not perfect and no matter how hard I try, I can’t be the perfect mom. There are so many different methods and styles to raising a kid. There is no book of rules that you have to follow. You have to just go with your gut and keep moving forward. Once I realized this, I felt relieved. I was relieved because I knew that I was doing the best that I can and Charlie would be ok at the end of the day regardless. This realization began to apply to other areas of my life. I started to give myself a break if I ate too many sweets one week, had too many glasses of wine or skipped a workout. And you know what, I felt better.
Allowing yourself to not be perfect is freeing. While I still struggle with trying to be perfect, now that I know I don’t have to be in order to be a good mom, wife, friend, photographer, gym rat, etc, I no longer have to carry around the guilt and negative feelings about not being perfect. Hello acceptance and happiness!
Are you a perfectionist? Hows that working out for you? Well, it doesn’t work for me or my mental health. If it’s not working for you either, I challenge you to really try taking a step back next time you start to get hard on yourself because you fell short of your idea of perfection. Instead, give yourself a pat on the back for what you have done so far. Try to swap those negative thoughts and feelings for positive ones. Give yourself the freedom to mess up and know that you’re still awesome.
At the end of the day, perfection isn’t going to make you happy. You’re in charge of your own happiness so isn’t it time to stop feeling guilty for not being perfect?
Keep stepping ya’ll!