Sometimes we don’t even realize that we’ve fallen into a comfortable rhythm of life. Our daily routines become ingrained into our identity and we become one with those roles, routines and habits. The downside to this rhythm is that we sometimes lose sight of the bigger picture and bigger questions in life. We stop questioning the things that we’re doing and we don’t go outside our comfort zone and suddenly our world gets small.
Looking back, I think I was on autopilot for a long time and didn’t really notice it. My head was down in my twenties just trying to make it on my own and build my career. During that time I let fear take over and allowed myself to be a part of relationships both personally and professionally that were often negative and did not allow me to grow and be the best I could be. When Charlie was born the veil was lifted from my eyes and my perspective changed in every area of my life. My priorities shifted and became crystal clear. I wanted to be the best mom possible and live a life with meaning, intention and purpose.
In order to find myself again, I started to incorporate a few new habits that aligned with my new purpose.
I went back to being a student and started to learn again by listening to podcasts
- I’ve always loved learning and being a student but that part of my personality took a back seat during my working grind in my twenties. After returning from maternity leave, I started to listen to educational and inspirational podcasts to and from work. The very first podcast that I started listening to was Lori Harder’s – Find Your Happy. It honestly felt like this woman was talking directly to me. She knew me inside and out and told me exactly what I needed to hear to help me start digging myself out of my old ways. From there I started to listen to Lewis Howes “School of Greatness,” and Tim Ferris’ “The Tim Ferris Show.” Each ride to and from work I was able to get some nugget of information or motivation that started to open me up to what could be.
I indulged my inner book worm
- In my journey away from autopilot and finding my truth, I started to read non-fiction again. I started with You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero then I moved on to Eckhart Tolle and Brene Brown and Elizabeth Gilbert. Each author seemed to be speaking to my truth and reminding me what it means to really live and follow your passion. It almost felt like a coming home.
To slow down (and stop the go go go mentality) I started my yoga and meditation practice again
- During transition periods in my life in the past, yoga was always something that helped me release stress and anxiety. As someone with a type A personality and desire to overachieve, it was important to me slow the F down. With a new child and trying to figure out my new role as a working mom, I needed that quiet time to find peace. The practice of yoga and meditation helped me find stillness and acceptance.
If you know you’re in a funk, taking the first step can be the hardest but with any habit, the more action you take, the easier the next action gets. The momentum will get start to come into effect and help you toward your goals. I challenge you to really question your comfort zone and your habits and ask yourself, am I letting life happen to me or am I being intentional with how I live my life? We only get one chance to do this life thing so don’t wait to get started.
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